Authenticity & Spiritual Intelligence

Authenticity and Spiritual Intelligence are co-related. Being an authentic leader is an art to be mastered over the lift time. In becoming authentic, it is the same as spiritual awakening and development. The more authentic you become, the higher your spiritual intelligence is.

Yet authenticity is not a concept that can be explained in one sentence or even a book. However, it can be felt and understood through stories. From these stories, you can relate to, resonate with, disagree with or even by inspired by, based on your own values and your life experiences to date.

I will share a couple of stories to illustrate the co-relation between authenticity and spiritual intelligence.

Recently, I watched an interview with the Dalai Lama. The interviewer mentioned that the Dalai Lama once said that he would be open to a female successor and that female must be attractive; otherwise, there is no much use. This remark is naturally controversial.

How you respond to his remark is a reflection of your level of authenticity and spiritual intelligence. Some may get upset by his comment; others would not. Now bearing in mind that English is not his mother tongue. So, those who would take no offence by his remark is because they understand the essence of his message.

The Dalai Lama has simply pointed out the very human nature, that is: we all like seeing beautiful things (e.g. people, babies, puppies etc) because they please our eyes as well as our other senses. Naturally, the female successor has to be attractive from the outside to get people’s attention first. She also has to be beautiful from the inside. In order to channel the inner wisdom from the inside and influence people, she has to be authentic.

Here is another story about a female meditation instructor. She is beautiful to look at, sounds beautiful and intelligent and walks gracefully. As a whole, she looks like a Goddess. And she wants to help people to enjoy love and intimacy and create a trustful life partnership. So she decides to design and facilitate workshops on love and intimacy. The workshops have gone really well and people have been inspired one way or another.

However, a controversial fact about her has come to light. It turns out that while she is preaching all the good practices for love, intimacy and sacred relationships, she is having a love affair with a married man.

Now let’s see how people with different SQ level may respond after discovering this controversy. Say, we scale SQ from 1.0 to 10.0, where 1.0 being the most basic and 10.0 being the most advanced. (SQ = Spiritual Intelligence)

SQ 1.0 – 2.0 people may respond in two opposite ways. One may say that “She is such a beautiful soul and a Goddess. I was so inspired by her workshop. There is no way that she would do such thing. This must be a fake news.” Denial?

The other may say that “She is beautiful from the outside but a hypocrite. How could she do such thing? I feel cheated.” Judgmental?

SQ3.0 – 4.0 people may say that “She is definitely beautiful and her workshop content was useful. Oh well, she is also a human. No one is perfect.” Trying to be indifference or objective?

SQ5.0-6.0 people may say that “Her workshop content was good. I guess she was trying to help herself by helping others. However, I now have questions about her credibility and integrity.” Now the value system is in spotlight.

SQ7.0-8.0 people may say that “Her work was good. I did find the content alone very useful. Credit to her for making such effort. However, I must admit that I did feel a disconnection somewhere but could not quite put my finger on it. It was as if some depth was missing. Now I know why.” The lack of depth is being picked up.

Guess what, SQ9.0 – 10.0 people probably have nothing to say. In fact, it is most likely that they would not have been drawn to her or her workshop in the first place. This is because they are the most discerning and can only be drawn by authenticity.

So why the differences? It really is just the reflection of our own life experiences and conditions at the given time. We all progress at different timelines.

As we become more authentic, we are raising our own spiritual intelligence. With the higher SQ, we develop the deeper self-awareness of our own values – who we are, what we believe in, what we stand for and what is the right thing to do (for the right reasons and even at the right time).

Whether you are in the corporate world (as CEO or COO of a company) or the spiritual world (as a Tai Chi teacher or Reiki master teacher) or in both worlds, being authentic is what sets you apart from the others.

It is important to understand and own our significant presence, our power of influence and the impact of our influence. This can only be channelled from our very core, the inner beauty and the inner universe when we are being authentic.

It is even more important to make “being authentic” a lifelong commitment - walk the talk; practice what we preach; not 40% of the time, nor 70%, nor 99.9% but 100% of the time at least. Who we are is how we lead.

I will leave you with one of my favourite quotes, by Lao Zhi from Dao Te Ching:

To know others is intelligence

To know oneself is true wisdom

To master others is strength

To master oneself is true power

Author: Stephanie Luo

How to Use Time Smartly to Overcome the Fear of Success?

During the exhibition of “Yukaloo”* by James Turrell at the Asia Society, we have had the privilege to facilitate a few sessions of Singing Bowls & Qi Meditation. These meditation sessions have been a joyful and yet profound experience for me personally.

Each time I go inside Yukaloo, it triggers me to contemplate on “Time” and what it means.

Time is a non-renewable resource and definitely the most precious resource that all of us owns. However, we tend to focus on the peripheral part of “Time” (i.e. as seen on the watch, clock and calendar), rather than looking beyond the surface and deeper into the layers like:

• What does Time mean to me?

• Why is Time a resource?

• How is my relationship with my Time? Am I using it efficiently or am I wasting time?

• What do I do with other people’s Time?

• What do I allow other people to do with my Time?

In creating the quality of life that we desire, big or small, a key ingredient is that we have to want it more than we fear it. Here is a perspective about how we can work with Time to overcome our fear of success and create the quality of life as we desire.

“Fear of Success” is an oxymoron and yet a real one. I will illustrate what this fear is like through the stories of two persons: one is overpowered by the fear of success; the other overcomes the fear of success.

These two persons, “A” & “B”, don’t know each other. However, they have many things in common: each a mother of two; has her owner career and highly regarded as a feminine leader in her own field; has been advancing on the path of self-development and spiritual intelligence; has been unhappy with her marriage and wants to get out; has initiated the divorce proceeding and as a result, has a husband who has turned the divorce proceeding into a bitter divorce battle. The difference is that each has taken a different strategy in dealing with the divorce battle.

“A” has decided to focus on the present moment and tackle the divorce battle head-on with the evil husband. She is constantly looking for ways to out-wit her evil husband in their fiery exchanges. He reciprocates at least in the same force. Between them, there have been constant manipulations, mind games and emotional blackmails. To add the extra complication, there is a lover at the back while all these are going on. Naturally, “A” feels drained easily. Her self-care strategy has been by going away to places like Bali or Koh Samui for retreats (e.g. yoga, detox etc). When she recharges, she returns to the battle field.

In contrast, “B” has taken a different strategy. She focuses her energy more on creating the kind of life that she wants to live after the divorce. As a result, she starts to put plans to actions. She does get dragged back to face the divorce battle against her evil husband. However, she is less engaged and does only whatever is required (like getting the filings done in time). She also feels drained from time to time. However, as she maintains her daily spiritual practice, (including meditation, kundalini yoga, creative project etc), she has managed to recuperate and recharge herself faster and without needing to go to overseas retreats - more cost effective. She is determined to get the divorce done and live the kind of life as she desires.

Unsurprisingly, the outcome to date between “A” and “B” is different. “B” has got her divorce through and is now moving on to live her new life; whereas “A” is still in the middle of her divorce battle with no sign of the ending in sight.

In essence, “A” is overpowered by her fear of success; and “B” has overcome her fear of success.

The result is simply due to their different strategy – where each has focused her energy on a different timeline of her life.

“A” has spent most of her energy on the Present and Past and little on the Future. In the Present, she is fully engaged in the divorce battle as she so desperately wants to get out the marriage and would do anything to achieve it. In order to outsmart her evil husband, she is constantly in the combat mode and keeps drawing her bitter experiences together with all the pains and traumas from the Past into the Present and the divorce battle. To certain extent, she is reliving these past experiences through her divorce battle. When she does look into the Future, she has just enough energy to look into a short distance away. Her lover is in a way her insurance policy into this short distant Future. However, she knows deep down that this “insurance policy” is not sustainable and can be cancelled at any time. So she feeds even more fear into her Future.

On the other hand, “B” has spent her energy on a broader spectrum of the life timeline. Although she is physically in the Present, dealing with the divorce battle, her mind and emotion are already ahead in the far Future, living the kind of life that she wants after the divorce. So, when she faces with the unpleasant elements in the Present, she then goes back to the Past, reflecting on and examining the journey that they have shared as married couple. She draws her lesson-learnt from this journey and identifies the limiting thought and behaviour patterns that will stop her from moving forward. She then bring these elementals forward into the Present, consciously breaks these patterns and make peace with the journey. As she becomes more enlightened, she becomes less and less engaged in the divorce battle. Therefore, the husband finally gives in and signs the divorce paper.

Without judging their circumstances, we should all be able to identify ourselves with both “A” and “B” at some levels and relate their stories to our own daily experiences.

I am sure that many of you are hearing or reading about this concept, “Fear of Success”, for the first time here.

The Fear of Success is real. It is probably the most powerful fear that we all live with. It is definitely more powerful than the Fear of Failure and so powerful that 99.9% of the time (if not, 100%) we simply submit to it even before recognising such fear.

It is also easy to spot the Fear of Success. It shows up when we keep getting stuck and unable to move forward into the kind of Future that we are manifesting. So, next time when you feel frustrated and could not move forward into the future timeline, take a moment to sit back and ask yourself some or all of the following questions:

• Why is this stagnation happening now?

• What is it that I should be focusing my energy on?

• What lessons that I am supposed to learn from the past in order to move forward?

• What is my goal again? Should I adjust it? If so, what adjustments?

• What is it that I am manifesting again?

• What would it mean when I achieve the outcome?

• What would it feel like when I achieve the outcome?

Leaving you to ponder further with the insightful quote from Brene Brown:

“Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”

Author: Stephanie Luo

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*About “Yukaloo”, as described by the Asia Society Hong Kong: “Yukaloo is an aperture within which LEDs are engineered to change colors gradually over the course of several hours. Colored light emitted from the work fills the space, creating an immersive atmosphere similar to the awe-inspiring fashion in which the sky changes from late afternoon to night. Best known for his installations of colored light that appear boundless and infinite, Turrell draws us closer to the presence of light and how it transforms our perception of space.”

**Photo credit to Sin Chang Mak of Asia Society Hong Kong.

Breathe, Breathe and Breathe

When I teach scuba dive, one question that is almost always asked by the newbies is “how long can the air tank last?”

The answer is simple: for a good dive, the goal is always to maximize your time underwater by prolonging the air consumption rate. The air consumption rate will depend on how you breathe and move underwater. Broadly speaking:

The more vigorous movements you make, the more air you need to consume - if you move a lot (like kicking very hard), you are likely breathing shorter and faster. As a result, you will use up the air tank faster. If, however, you move slowly and breathe in a consistent pace, your air tank can last longer.

The more you move against a force, the more air you need to consume - If you are diving against the current, you will need to kick harder in order to move forward and, therefore, you will breathe faster and consume more air. However, if you are drift diving (i.e. let the current pushes you), you will be moving very little and, therefore, you will breathe slower and consume less air.

The more stressed you are (emotionally and physically), the more air you need to consume - When you are anxious and nervous, your breath is short and faster. When you are calm and relaxed, your breath is long and slower. During a dive, the slower you breathe, the lower your heart rate – and in turns, you become more calm and relaxed.

The more pressure you are under, the more air you need to consume - If you dive in shallow depth (like less than 15 metres), you are under less pressure and, therefore, can breathe smoothly and slower. However, if you go deep (like 20 – 40 metres), the pressure underwater will cause the air to become denser and therefore, harder to breathe. The tip is to breathe in a deliberately slower and longer pace.

Whether you are a scuba diver or not, by now you should see a pattern on how our breathing can be influenced by our own external and internal environments.

Likewise, it is easy to make the metaphorical correlation between being underwater and being above water. For the latter, we all are subject to pressure, stress, anxiety and negative energy and emotions. The breathing strategy for scuba diving is totally relevant and applicable to our daily life.

An amazing wonder of our human body is that we can consciously control our breathing. In fact, when we can control our breathing, we are aiding ourselves to become resilient.

In short, breathing is the foundation to good health and movement.

Here is a simple breathing exercise that you can do and with some variations that you can add later in your own time.

1-minute Breathing Exercise:

• Sit on a chair with your back fully supported

• Close your eyes to help you focus

• Place the tip of your tongue against the back your upper teeth

• INHALE through your nose into your lungs and to its maximum capacity

• EXHALE through your nose, emptying your lungs like deflating a balloon

• Repeat continuously for 1 minute (or until you want to stop).

• It takes only 1 minute a day of your time as a starter. As you start to feel the benefits, you will naturally create more time for yourself to just do these breathing exercises.

Some additional variations that you can add later.

Variation 1 - Pace your inhaling and exhaling with specific length of time. For instance, INHALE and count 1 to 3 as you are inhaling; then EXHALE and count 1 to 3 as you are exhaling. Make it a smooth transition. Over time, as you become more familiar, you can extend the length of time for inhaling and exhaling.

Variation 2 - For scuba divers, you can switch to breathing through your mouth. At the same time, you INHALE by sipping air in slow motion and counting 1 to 5 or more until you fill up your lungs. Then you EXHALE by blowing air in slow motion and again counting 1 to 5 or more until your lungs are empty.

I would love to hear from you on your experience – even if you don't get the breathing exercise and have more questions about it. Please do get in touch by email to info@luxenova.co or by leaving a comment here.

Author: Stephanie Luo

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Life is a ship - the Confession of a Diving Junkie!

“Life is a Ship, Seize it” ~ said a Hong Kong Admiralty Court Judge

Water sports are one of the crown jewels of Hong Kong living, especially, in the heaty summer time. While most people stay above water, I love going underwater to scuba dive – whether for fun or for training.

For non-divers, I would articulate my passion (or chronic addiction) for being underwater this way - when I am underwater,

• my mind is focus and yet relaxed;

• my body is weightless;

• I breathe consciously to maintain the neutral buoyancy;

• my curiosity goes wild;

• I see an entirely different world;

• when I surface, my perspective has changed;

• I feel whole again; and

• I appreciate being in the present moment even more.

When I first picked up scuba diving, I instantly became (and still am) addicted to the sensations of neutral buoyancy. I love it because my physical body is working in harmony with the forces of nature - gravity and water drag - through my breathing and finning. Once I am present, I am enjoying the underwater environment.

I love being in the state of calm, especially when my surrounding environment is chaotic. Throughout my legal and banking profession, it has always been my “secret” personal goal – striving to stay calm and dispassionate in the midst of challenges and to overcome these with grace and elegance.

My passion for scuba diving has become the support system for my career and personal development - in a holistic way. It is where I connect with my spirituality.

Likewise, I was steered away from my corporate job simply because I fell passionately in love with executive coaching and leadership development. I am in this new game with the mission to work with corporate executives to create their own support system to maintain and enhance the quality of life and wellbeing. As they are more in touch with their own human elements, they will become better leaders and make the world better.

Now with my “executive coach” hat on, I invite you to ponder on these:

* What tickles your passion in life?

* What has your passion taught you about yourself?

* What do you do (or can you do) to live that passion in your roles (as an executive, son, daughter, lover, parent etc)?

I would love to hear your thoughts. So please do feel free to get in touch or share your comments.

Contributor: Stephanie Luo

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Singing Bowls, Meditation & Neuroscience

Q: What do singing bowls, meditation and neuroscience have in common?

A: Mind wellness.

In enhancing our wellbeing and quality of life, the first thing that we should address is the wellness of our mind. As it happens, mindfulness and meditation are the simplest approaches to maintain and sustain such wellness.

We have been conducting singing bowls sound baths as part of meditation sessions, on-site or off-site of Luxe Nova Lifestyle Studio. From the feedback of the participants, it has started to show us the common effects of the sound vibration, including:

• It can stop the mind from wondering off and quieten the cluttered thoughts.

• It creates an invisible blanket around the body to help it to slow down.

• It relaxes the participants almost immediately, even though they have remained aware of the surrounding environment.

• It is energizing – physically and mentally.

• Many felt restful after the session.

Indeed, it is satisfying to watch the participants getting the immediate benefits from a session of singing bowls sound bath. At the same time, it has caused me to look further into the findings in neuroscience.

Traditionally, Tibetan singing bowls have been used for healing and meditation purposes. According to the traditional method, there are some specific requirements in the making of a singing bowl. For instance, each bowl must contain 7 types of metals: Gold, Silver, Copper, Iron, Mercury, Tin and Lead. Each metal is associated with one planet.

It is understood that each planet relates to various parts of our energetic anatomy – for instance, our chakras. Through sound vibration from each metal and the combination of these metals, our body get the healing physically and energetically.

Below is a table showing the relevant association:

It is evident that the sound vibration can filter the cluttered thoughts and calm the mind and body. When singing bowls (whether Tibetan or crystal bowls) are incorporated into a meditation session, the effect and benefit of the meditation are enhanced immediately.

There are tons of research on the correlation between meditation and our brain – in particular, what meditation can do to our brain, so that our quality of life is enhanced.  

Here are a few interesting findings about our brain:

Neuroplasticity. Throughout our life, our brain has this amazing ability to reorganise itself by forming new connections between neurons and even growing new neurons in response to thoughts and experiences.

Relaxed egos. A study from Institute of Psychiatry, London, has shown with MRI scans as to how our brain activities change during the meditation. For instance, the front area of brain, which is associated with self-centeredness and egos, becomes relaxed during meditation.

Increased self-awareness. Another group of researchers (associated with Harvard) have also found that after their subjects have practiced a small doses of mindfulness mediation daily over a period of 8 weeks, they have found an increase in the gray matter in the area of the brain associated with self-awareness, compassion and introspection. They have also found a decrease in the gray matter in the area of the brain associated with stress and anxiety.

Rewire the brain’s default mode network. The default mode network of the brain means the network of active brain regions when we are awake. When this default mode network is firing up, it means that we are thinking about ourselves, worrying about what others’ perception of “me”, thinking about the future, regretting the past etc. In short, we stop focusing on the moment of “now”. A study from Yale has found that when people meditate, this default mode network is switched off. It also shows that people who meditate regularly have rewired this network, so that they focus more on the present moment.

Supposedly, with these scientific evidence, it should provide more comfort to you (the readers) and encourage you to meditate more regularly.

It is nice if you can meditate for a long time or even go on regular Vipassana meditation retreats. Frankly speaking, this is an ambitious goal and more likely to remain as an aspiration for many people.

The more realistic and achievable goal is to create a new habit of doing meditation regularly. All it takes is to be simple and spend as little as 5 minutes a day to meditate. When you do it regularly (or even better, daily), you will definitely notice and feel in yourself the changes.

Recently, we had the opportunity to do a singing bowls demonstration to the members of the Asia Society Hong Kong. It was a lovely evening to share with so many people the beauty and power of these singing bowls. Although the demonstration was a very short one, the feedback from the guests were similar – especially that they felt relaxed very quickly and some even felt energised.

And the best comment of the night was from a guest who is a professional musician and he called the sounds from these singing bowls “the essence of music”. To me, it was a beautiful encouragement to continue sharing my love and passion.

Contributor: Stephanie Luo

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Closure - is it possible to create the closure that I want?

“Don't cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.” ~ a proverb

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When we talk about “closure”, it usually relates to the closure of a relationship (whether romantic, business or otherwise). According to the Oxford Dictionary, closure means that “a feeling that an emotional or traumatic experience has been resolved.”

When seeking the closure, we tend to look back into the past and try to make sense of it all (e.g. how and why these hurt feelings and negative emotions have happened). Some people reach the closure through enlisting lessons-learnt from the past in order to make sense of the changes that have taken place. The lesson-learnt can be about oneself, the life, people etc. In this process, they let-go off the negative emotions and make peace with the experience.

In truth (and in most cases), we somehow see the coming of the break-up but choose to ignore the signs.  In particular, when we are the one looking to initiate the “talk” of breaking up, we give little or no thought about how to prepare for the closure.  As a result, the breaking up process is often a long dreaded and painful one.

If you are at the juncture, contemplating on where to go next in your life (be it a new partner, a new work place or even a new country), it is important to know that walking away from the situation does not automatically give you a closure.

You get the closure only when you walk away from the situation feeling peaceful and graceful. So how to take care of the closure? 

Whether you have started the “break-up talk”, it is important to first make sure that your little unhelpful friend – Procrastination – is sent away with a marching order.  That way, you can make time and a safe space for yourself to do some reflection and visualisation.

In this little trip, allow yourself to give meanings to the particular journey that is about to end and explore questions like (in no particular order):

1)     What is the quality of each relationship that I have made in the journey?

2)     Will the relationship terminate or continue?

3)     If the relationships will continue, what changes will take place?

4)     What have I learnt about myself?

5)     What do I want for the closure to look like?

6)     How will I feel when I have the kind closure I want?

Once you have gone through these issues, you should feel empowered and ready to let the balls rolling. Manifesting the closure is just the same and as important as manifesting the dream partner or dream job.

Good luck and enjoy the ride!

Contributor: Stephanie Luo

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Own and honour the integrity of our body!

When we strike the balance and create the clear mind-body-spirit connection, we are in the state of bliss and happiness. To reach this state, we have to start addressing the mind by setting our mindset in the positive, creative and uplifting state. Then, our body's own healing ability gets empowered and activated. As our mind becomes more connected with our body, our spirit becomes more open and brighter.

From an energy-begetting chat with Zosha recently, I was awestruck by something she said - "...we should own the integrity of our body..." I love it instantly as if it is the latest 'Top of the Pops'!

This powerful statement has brought back some memories from the time when I first moved to Hong Kong and the discovery of my hyperthyroidism condition at the time - and especially, the journey of taking control of my health.

I recall vividly that for a brief moment alone, standing in the lobby of the hospital whilst waiting for my sister to join me for the second consultation, I felt the extreme void of confusion and vulnerability. I was trying to understand how I got myself into such a state, since I had always been sensible about my diet and lifestyle (like eating healthy, regular yoga practice and swimming etc). I really thought that I had my stress level under control through the "healthy" lifestyle. Clearly, the test report said otherwise!

The next thing that Bri nailed into my head was that hyperthyroidism is not a terminal illness like cancer, but if I failed to get this hormonal imbalance condition under control, I would be serving a life sentence of never-ending medication, treatments and hospital-runs etc. The thought of “life sentence” made me more determined to “exterminate” this condition with all available resources – and the journey began…

In conjunction with the prescriptive medication, I was introduced to a massage therapist. In our first session, she went straight into the heart of the matter - negative emotions that have been neglected and stored in various parts of my body for too long. 

I realised that while focusing on developing my legal profession at a City Law Firm, I did only the superficial bits to look after my body. All of my negative emotions were not processed properly and in that process, my body kept taking them on until it lashed out with hyperthyroidism.

That session of massage therapy was an extremely painful one - and the word "painful" is an understatement, given the amount of screaming and crying that came out of me!  However, she helped me to rewire my mindset. With the guidance of the therapist, I started to apologise to my body for neglecting it and express my gratitude and love to my body. Miraculously, the pain started to disappear – and naturally, I repeated the same mantra whenever she hit the painful spot for the rest of the treatment!

Over the time, I started to learn more about how my body records different kinds of memories. I become more connected with my body - when any discomfort starts to surface, I would sit back and communicate with my body to see whether it is a reflection of my current state of being or something from the past that has started to surface etc.

While I was getting more in touch with my body, I was developing my new career at the bank who brought me to Hong Kong from London. I had good support from my family and friends as well as my colleagues at work in this journey. In just under 2 years, I was cleared from hyperthyroidism and never relapsed since.

Reiki then came to me, and I began a new era of exploring and cultivating my spirituality. This time round with a more balanced mind, healthier body and enhanced spirit, I climbed the corporate ladder with more confidence in expressing my skills and talents. I left the bank with many fond memories and great friendships and started to devote my time to grow Luxe Nova.

So, when Zosha said about owning the integrity of our body, it simply resonates with my belief and practice. In fact, I feel empowered when I own and honour the integrity of my body. For one, everyday I thank my body for being my best buddy and for taking care of me.

There are so many things that you can do to own the integrity of your body. Here are some simple practices:

1. Get plenty of good quality sleep. It is not just about getting enough rest, but also allowing our mind to work optimally. Here are 5 TED Talks to inspire you to sleep more.

2. Regular meditation and/or mindfulness practice. It is about training your brain to be more focus and relaxed at the same time. When you hit this zone, your creativity is infinite. It is also a good time for you to listen deeply – to your thoughts, your body, your environment, other sounds, emotions, ideas etc.

3. Good eating habit – healthy and high quality food and drinks. You are what you eat! Do think twice before you put some junk into your mouth. However, it is ok to have junk food occasionally – just as a treat and to shock your body a bit, so that it can appropriate the good stuff even more.

4. Active body, active mind. Being active is simple – for instance, instead of getting someone to make you that cup of tea, make it yourself! You’ll never know what amazing idea would come to you while you wait for the kettle to boil! In any event, just pick the form of activity that makes you move about and stimulates the energy circulation inside your body.

5. Express your gratitude freely. The energy vibration for gratitude is the same as appreciation and love. Saying “thank you” from your heart is the simplest way to spread this positive energy around.

6. Making time to show up. “I am so busy…” is a phrase that has been said too often to substantiate any positive meaning, but a feeble excuse. Time is a man-made concept. When you master the skill of making time for yourself to show up, you will find that even when you are inundated, time will make itself available for you.

This list can go on and on. If you are already doing one or more of these, you are on the right path and keep up with the good work. Leaving you with a thought to ponder on…how would you complete the sentence below:

Today I own and honour the integrity of my body by _________________________________.

Author: Stephanie Luo

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Tea is the essence of Mother Earth’s Wisdom

“From the dawn of time, man knew that in order to stay alive he must observe, understand and respect Mother Earth, who nourishes him.” ~ anonymous

Tea leaves hold all the beautiful elements and nutrients coming from the Sun and the Mother Earth. Each element is a wisdom, gently nourishing our mind, body and spirit. Tea is a catalyst for mind-body-spirit connection.

However, with the climate changes at hand – which is a real issue – the quality of teas gets tainted as well as the harvest of good quality organic teas is shrinking. When we start drinking lessor quality teas, our mind, body and spirit become less nourished. These adverse changes to the quality of the soil get absorbed by the tea trees and stored in the tea leaves. Naturally, over a period of time, our body would get affected as a result. 

So, why should we consume organic teas?

All premium loose teas are hand-picked. The harvest depends on the geographical locations (e.g. in the mountain or valley) and the surrounding climate. The fresh tea leaves then go through withering, so that the moisture will be reduced and ready for the processes to come.

During the production process, tea is never washed. The harmful chemical residues (e.g. chemical fertilizer or pesticide) remain attached to the tea leaves. When infusing the tea leaves in the tea pot, these residues would be released or activated through heat and into the tea. Naturally, when we consume such tea, the toxins are ingested by our stomach, liver and kidneys.  At the same time, these chemicals remain in the soils where the tea trees are grown and the surrounding environment.

Aside the fact that organic teas can provide us with the full health benefits to our own body, by purchasing and drinking organic teas, we are supporting organic farming and in turns we are taking part in environmental protection.  

Being in an organic tea estate is a real treat to our senses – it contains a multiple of cultivations and biodiversity. Aside the tea trees, one sees other plants and trees like cinnamon trees, apple trees, grape vines, bee hives etc. The plants take part in the creation of compost, repelling parasites as well as in the fight against soil erosion.  The farmers incorporate many natural and herbal solutions to fight against diseases, insects and vermin of all kinds. These solutions include essential oils, cow urine, nettle liquid manure etc. The organic fertilizers and various minerals are also applied to balance the soil equilibrium where necessary. In short, it is a happy place to be.

When we drink the organic tea from such a place, we are taking in the essence from this happy place. Personally, I often can visualise the place where the tea comes from while drinking it - the sun, rain, grass, tree, butterfly, birds, bees...etc. Being in the urban city, it is a beautiful escape, even just for a brief minute! 

Note: all the photographs shown above are from Les Jardins de Gaia, taken at the relevant estates where the teas are from.

Author: Stephanie Luo

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Tea is the aphrodisiac for our brain

Recently, I have been digging into my collection of precious vintage teas. These vintage teas were harvested at least 30 years ago. What makes them so precious is not the age but the love, passion, care and respect for the Mother Nature behind the growing of the tea trees and making of the tea – i.e. the stories of the people, the teas and the locations.

Each of these teas came from the place where organic farming was the tradition. It is raw and authentic – a place where people have no care about the organic labelling or any labelling at all. Its quality speaks for itself.

So, when it comes to drinking these vintage teas, I naturally want to pay the homage by creating a sacred space to brew and taste the tea with certain ritual.

First, I find or create a space that is free of clutter.  It can be as small as an A3 size table matt. Then I start decorating this defined space with the tea pot, cups and other accessories. There are some recommendations on how you can organise this scared space. However, the importance is to make this sacred space as aesthetically pleasing as you wish.

Once this is set up to my heart’s desire, I rinse all the tea pot and cups with the hot water. Next, I pour the tea leaves into the empty tea pot (which by now should be warm) and gently shake the tea pot to allow the tea leaves to shift inside the pot. The mild heat inside the tea pot can stimulate the tea leaves to release the aroma.

At this point, I usually take a deep breath of this aroma into my lungs. As the aroma moves inside my body, I can sense my brain cells starting to tingle all senses. Sometimes I can identify from the aroma elements about the tea and its origin (e.g. forest, flower, soil, air etc.). 

While this sensual experience lingers, I pour the hot water and brew the tea*. With the vintage tea, I would rinse the tea leaves with hot water first and then brew the tea. For the first and second brew, it takes about 30 seconds to 1 minute.  From the third brew onwards, the time of brewing gets extended a bit longer and the temperature of the water is higher – so to allow the water to sip deeper into the leaves and extract the flavours.

When the tea is ready, I sip and let the tea linger in my mouth for a bit – in the same way as wine tasting. In this stage, I get to taste the deeper layer of the tea aroma.  After swallowing the tea, I would sit in silence and let the after-taste to surface.  Each tea has its own tempo and tickles different part of our body. This is when I start to connect deeper.

This whole ritual is effectively a form of meditation or mindfulness practice. It would be a lie if I claimed to enter into the Samadhi all the time! The connection can vary and depend on the condition I am on the day.  Sometimes this is a sacred space where my focus and awareness are enhanced – both in life and in work. The quieter I become, the more distractions get stripped away. In turns, I gain the clarity and can stay on track with my goals.

“How long will this whole process take?”, one may ask. It can be as short as 10 mins to 1 hour or more.  It is entirely depending on how you want to manage your time.

For someone who is completely new to this, I would suggest starting with something simple.  A simple 10-minute tea time can be done with brewing some tea leaves in a tea cup or bowl. If you have 30-minute to spare, you can set up your sacred place more elaborately.

To get to know more about tea tasting and tea meditation, you can start by finding a 10-minute slot for yourself each day and repeat this routine consecutively for 21 days.  In that period, remember to have fun to experiment with different types of teas and see what you get out of it each time.

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*The temperature of the water will depend on the type of tea chosen. It is useful to ask the person who sells you the tea. Otherwise, if such information is not available, the general rule goes like this:

• Black Tea, 90~95°C

• Oolong Tea, 80~90°C

• Green Tea, 75~85°C

• Rooibos / Herbal Tea, 90~95°C

Making and drinking tea is an experience and pleasure. Have fun with experimenting with different approach and enjoy each moment.

Author: Stephanie Luo

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The Physical Me is Materialised Spirit

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“The Physical me is Materialised Spirit.”

This is such a profound and yet inspiring statement. The more I contemplate on the essence of this statement, the more inspiration and wisdom I gain from it.

There is an uprising of people whose purposes and missions in life are ultimately to raise our connection with the beauty of living in higher consciousness.  In pursuing such life purposes, they are drawn and open to an array of modalities to enhance and maintain a healthy mind-body-spirit connection. These modalities include mindfulness, meditation, yoga, kinesiology, reiki, craniosacral work and sound healing, etc.

Sounds very “new age”, doesn’t it? One may even assume that these people are very detached from the materialistic corporate world or even loath the capitalism.  If you firmly believe so, then you are in for a surprise.

It has become prominent for us to meet more of these people in the so-called materialistic corporate world (like investment banks and global corporates etc.) and many of them are holding the senior executive positions. It is a lifestyle choice - whereby we strive to maintain a healthy mind-body-spirit connection. That way, we are able to maintain the work-life balance and to fulfil our potentials at the highest. 

Many of these senior executives are the leaders with high emotional intelligence (EQ) and spiritual intelligence (SQ). People who are of high spiritual intelligence radiate integrity, wisdom, compassion, courage, selflessness and inspiration. They are the agents of changes.

In the corporate world, they are likely the ones raising the awareness and introducing different mindset for the better. It is evident that a growing number of corporates are engaging in the community services because it is the right thing to do (instead of a good PR strategy). We are also seeing more and more corporates incorporating the equality and diversity practice, so that they are able to attract and retain talents. 

In the banking and finance world where I came from, I am seeing the trend that the senior leaders (driven by their strong values) are utilising the extensive corporate connection and their own power of influence to create the positive shift – be it in their employees, in the underprivileged community, in the environment etc.  In short, it is erroneous to continue looking at a business as a money-making machine.  Instead, a business is a living entity.

As the Dalai Lama has said in his book “The Leader’s Way”, “the true value of a business is not the sum of its facilities and its employees and its financial resources: The value resides in the relationships between the people within it and with the many stakeholders outside the organisation.”

The corporate world is a grounding environment for us to develop multiple intelligences as well as to cultivate our spirituality.  Naturally, the modalities like meditation, reiki and craniosacral work are becoming popular and regularly subscribed to. These modalities are useful tools for us to access our own resources from within. 

When we establish a firm mind-body-spirit connection, it means that we have a healthy and balanced lifestyle and living in higher consciousness. After all, “the Physical me is Materialised Spirit.”  So, ask yourself this question (or simply ponder on it) - How intelligent and sophisticated is my Materialised Spirit? 

Contributor: Stephanie Luo

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A good book to read:

The Leader’s Way, by His Holiness The Dalai Lama and Laurens Van Den Muyzenberg.

Can global capital markets become catalysts for social change? According to investment expert Audrey Choi, individuals own almost half of all global capital, giving them (us!) the power to make a difference by investing in companies that champion social values and sustainability. "We have more opportunity today than ever before to make choices," she says.

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Mindful Eating - eating in a scientific and yet holistic way

Ayurveda Concept of Food & Diet

We have just wrapped up the Ayurveda Week with Barberyn Ayurveda Resorts. Aside experiencing what it would be like getting the consultation and treatment at the resorts, it was an incredible journey to attend the introductory workshops on Ayurveda.

One of our intentions was to introduce people in Hong Kong the Ayurveda philosophies and principles by the leading experts in the field. That way, instead of blindingly following the trends, we can make a more informed and intelligent decision when it comes to our health, eating habit and general wellbeing.

In one of the modules – Food and Diet, Dr. Damayanthi opened the workshop with a strikingly strong message:

“Did you know that lifestyle generated diseases outnumbers accidental injuries?” 

By lifestyle generated diseases, it includes Alzheimer’s disease, arthritis, atherosclerosis, asthma, some kinds of cancer, chronic liver disease, heart disease, Type 2 diabetes, metabolic syndrome, obesity, depression, osteoporosis, chronic renal failure etc.

When we started looking into the Ayurveda concept of food and diet, it starts to make so much sense and guess what, it all boils down to two words: Mindful Eating.

What is Mindful Eating?

According to the science of Ayurveda, our body is made of different types of energies – Kapha, Pitta and Vatta.  Agni (i.e. digestive fire) is responsible for our ability to process all aspects of life (e.g. food, memories and sensory impressions). 

In terms of the food, it is responsible for absorbing the nutrients and essential elements that our body needs and at the same time, burning off waste products.  When our Agni is strong, we are able to digest food efficiently and easily assimilate our daily experiences.  However, when our Agni is weak, our body would digest poorly and create toxic residue that stay in our cells. Over the time, as the toxin starts to lodge deep in our body, the body starts to deteriorate, resulting in the dysfunctional immune system and diseases.

As food is the largest element from external environment that we put through our mouth and into our body, it is important to be aware of key factors like:

1. How to eat?  Our food should be warm and slightly with oil.

2. When to eat? We eat only when we are hungry (i.e. when previous meal is digested at the proper time). The ancient science suggests that the first meal should be after sun-rise, second meal around mid-day and third meal around 48 minutes before sun-set.

3. Where to eat? We should eat in a desired place, in the company of desired people, having required instruments and with attentive mind.

4. What to eat? We look into characteristics that are in the food. By characteristic, we mean taste, property, potency, post digestive effect and unpredictable specific action.  For instance, the food has to taste good. If not, the body does not like it. As for the properties of the food, there are many factors to take into account, including where is the food grown, under what condition and in which geographical area.

5. How the food is prepared? The best instrument to use for preparing food should be made of gold, silver or iron. When none of these are available (especially gold and silver), instruments made of stainless steel and clay pots are also good.

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Eat according to your dosha

As our body types (i.e. dosha combination) are all different, we have to consider how we can incorporate these principles into our lifestyle in order to maintain good health and wellbeing.

For instance, my body type is Pitta-Kapha. What does that mean for me then? According to the recommendation from Dr. Damayanthi:

• Lunch is the most important meal of the day for me.

• In the morning (i.e. from sunrise to around 10:00am, the Kapha-hour of the day), I should have something warm and light.

• For dinner, I can have a light one, like steam vegetables, fish, warm soup etc.

• Juice detox is not good for me because of the Kapha-dosha. However, because of being Pitta-dominant, I can have some raw salad and juice during lunch time as it is the “Pitta-hour” of the day.

• Red chilli is a big “no no” for Pitta-type as it can escalate hydrochloric acid in my body and overtime with persistent consumption, it could lead to hormonal imbalance and/or increase of free radicals in my body.  Having said that, the Kapha side of me likes spicy food, so green chilli is ok!

When reflecting on these useful tips from Dr. Damayanthi, it has become clear to me that my body does know what it needs and likes.  When I did the juice detox, I really did not like it at all.  It was more of a battle of two evils as I was trying to convince myself that it was good because my body would get cleansed. 

What I love most about the workshop is that Dr. Damayanthi and her team were able to deliver the science of life in an informative and pragmatic way - easy for lay-man like me to grasp as well as incorporating these into my daily routine.  With these practical tips based on Ayurveda principles, I now have a clearer idea and correct attitude towards my own personal choice of diet and eating habit.

One thing that I am certainly pleased to say is “bye-bye raw food and juice detox…we are just not meant to be!” And simply, I should listen to my body more!

Contributor: Stephanie Luo

Colouring Mandala with Intention

It has become a trend to colour mandalas as a way to ease stress.  The small effort of setting everything aside and focusing on colouring one mandala in a seating of a few hours is already an energy-begetting journey. 

Let’s imagine that when we colour a mandala with intention, we can invoke positive energies into our chosen mandala. 

You can create and colour a mandala for love, prosperity, wealth, health, peace and even to gain closure of certain issues from the past.  You will learn the simplified and yet practical approach to create your own mandala going forwards. 

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Compassion Mandala by Andy Weber of Andy Weber Studios

More about Mandala

Mandala (in Sanskrit, means circle) is the sacred symbol of the Universe.  In Tibetan Buddhism, it can be created in the form as a painting on a wall or a scroll or with colour sands on a table or platform.  It is constructed with geometric composition – with the intention to create the equilibrium.  The purpose of the mandala is to guide individuals to gain wisdom and compassion and along the path to enlightenment.

According to the teachings of Buddhism, the mandalas can transmit positive energies to the environment and to people who view them.  The sacred mandala painting (whether on a wall or a scroll) can be created by the Tibetan Buddhist monks or practitioners. In creating such a sacred mandala, they would have to be in the state of calm, through chants and meditation.  At the same time, they invoke the divine energies of the deities residing inside the mandala.

Sacred Sand Mandala

The sacred sand mandala is constructed only by the monks. The mandala design is chosen with a specific intention. The monks begin the construction with an opening ceremony and sacred chants. They place millions of grains of dyed sand to fill in the elaborate patterns of the chosen mandala design.  Every aspect of the mandala has meaning.

When the mandala is completed, the monks ask for the deities’ healing blessings.  They then enact the impermanent nature of existence by sweeping the sand from the perimeter to the centre of the mandala.  The sand is then swept up into an urn and dispersed into flowing water.  It is a way to re-energise the environment and universe and in turns, extend the healing powers to the whole world.

Contributor: Stephanie Luo